Monthly Archives: January 2016

Kayaking Thailand

Kayaking in Thailand is quite popular for all ages of people and the main kayaking holidays in Thailand are in the beach resorts of Krabi, Phuket, Ko Samui and around the Phang Na area (James Bond Island.


However, there is another world of kayaking Thailand’s rivers and lakes. All over Thailand there are rivers and large water areas in natural surroundings and Forest parks with waterfalls and virtually unseen areas by foreigners. The only people that see these wonderful rivers and secret areas are the Thai fishermen who use their long boats to paddle up and down the rivers looking to catch fish to sell or eat with their families.


Some of the rivers are small and very scenic to kayak down and some are very wide and long like the river Mun or the river Chi.

There is a fantastic complex of river networks around the interior of Thailand and the River Chi runs from the Lao border going up to the north east part of Thailand and at Lam Pao opens up to a large inland lake area. The river Mun in Thailand is another long river and goes across the centre of Thailand and has many smaller rivers going down to Cambodia.

Kayaking Nong Bua Lake, Kantarawhichai, Mahasarakham

Coconut Palms hotel with pool in Mahasarakam province.

If you are visiting the North east of Thailand between Khon Kaen, Kalasin and Maha Sarakham and are interested in Kayaking Thailand Rivers then Coconut Palms pool resort in Kantarawhichai, Maha Sarakam is perfectly located. Directly opposite the Nong Bua Lake where you can explore and kayak Thailand all day long. Just a few miles down the road is the River Chi of which stretches for miles in each direction. The river Chi runs through the Maha Sarakham University area and there are several restaurants along the banks of the river and so much to see and explore. Another short drive across the province is a huge complex of rivers and lakes and even the Kosamphi National park.

See the map below.

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The Nong Bua lake opposite Coconut Palms is huge and the sunsets are spectacular. The whole area including the lake has been cleaned up and the government is designating it an recreation area of natural beauty.

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Nong Bua Lake, Kantarawhichai, Maha Sarakham

Above is a picture of the lake but it stretches out a long way.


The people interested in kayaking Thailand can either bring their portable inflatable kayaks with them (only 14kgs in a backpack or Coconut Palms will be importing some Seyvlor Hudson Kayaks and maybe later if the demand is there a couple of Seyvlor Colorado kayaks for rental at the resort.


Exploring the small rivers


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Over the last 3 years I have been travelling back and forth to Thailand  and building a small pool resort and am now so ready to leave the UK for ever. The costs of virtually everything here from dining out in restaurants to fuel and council taxes and all the other bills is becoming truly horrendous.. At the time of writing, In my home town of Luton, Bedfordshire the rents are hitting £850 for a 2 bed flat and £1200 for a 3 bed house ! Now add on council tax of £160 per month and then your gas, electric, water, TV and broadband and you are up to £1400 for a 2 bed flat!! So virtually all of what you earn will go on trying to survive on a monthly basis… of did i forget to add food and transport to work… there, now you have no money left to have any kind of decent life.

How can anyone here really think they are free!

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If you do… you need to check out Thailand as that is most definitely the Land of Freedom. The cost of an average meal is still less than £1 (if you eat where the locals eat) , fuel is only 30 Baht (0.66 pence) per litre, there are no heating bills… (you will need air-con in your home to be comfortable though. Electric and gas prices are massively cheaper then the UK. There are massive shopping centers in most major cities now that supply the most luxurious furniture and there are Tesco Lotus supermarkets all over the country now.

Even when I lived in Phuket for 2 years back in 2000 and before that, Bangkok for 9 years, there were some incredible shopping plazas. If in Bangkok go to the Paragon centre, the Siam centre, World Trade center and of course the Emporium on Sukhumvit road. Even getting around in Thailand is easy and relatively cheap. The sky train and the Underground rail system in Bangkok is fast and very efficient. Avoid the local taxis though as the traffic jams in BK will drive you nuts. 



 As for doing business in Thailand…  

The best businesses are those you can run on a laptop, ipad or smartphone. While I am there for several months at a time, I do the same as I do here in the UK, update my websites, send out orders of any physical products (like Eyelashes for cars) and work on new websites for existing and any new clients that come on board.  Telephone consulting is usually done via Skype but even on a landline or mobile it only costs a few pence per minute.

If you need any help or advice from Setting up a Freedom type business, investing in Thailand or the Philippines or if you are contemplating marriage to a Thai or Filipino… or getting a visa for your partner you can contact me anytime.

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Do you have a Life plan ?

We all need a plan and the Journey is more important then the destination is a very qood quote from Buddha. My wife and I had a dream, in fact it goes back much further because I remember discussing creating a ZEN swimming pool style resort with my daughter over 10 years ago… But like most people it was a dream than needed some serious funding.


Coconut Palms Hotel with pool in Mahasarakham, Thailand

Coconut Palms Hotel with pool in Mahasarakham, Thailand

Well I have always believed in the universe giving you what you really desire deep down inside and one of the things I have always taught my children and business students is….

“Never think about “how” you can achieve your dreams, desires and goals.

Just think about and “keep an image of your dream in your mind” of already having it.

The universe works in a strange way… and you have to be very careful about what you think about ALL DAY LONG. Because as sure as anything I have ever seen throughout my life – What your mind focuses on and your belief system sets up your reality. If you continually “think about” illness or having no money or not enjoying your work or whatever it is that you think and dwell upon everyday… be assured, that is exactly what the universe will give you. Your mind is very very powerful and acts like a magnet. So it will attract to you whatever you think about ALL DAY LONG. Check out “The Strangest Secret” a classic recording – Find it on YouTube. I used to play that on my ipod over and over again some 20 odd years ago while learning all about this attraction and positive thinking stuff.

Guess why many people don’t believe in positive thinking… because every time they try it (for a few moments each time) and get zero results is because the most dominant thing going on inside their own minds is they are continually thinking about NOT having the things they really want.

Your belief system sets up your reality and also sets up it’s limitations

Just take a look at Muslims or any of the very religious people and their lives.
If you have been programmed to act or dress in a certain way – you believe that to be right.
And you are right because that is what you have allowed to be programmed into your brain. 

Just try telling a Muslim about another way to look at life or religion or anything that conflicts with his or her pre programmed beliefs… You may as well go talk to a brick wall.

The only way anyone can change their belief system is to firstly ACCEPT that whatever they believe now has come from someone, their school, parents, TV or whatever. Many people only believe something if it comes from their doctor or the TV or someone they hold in their mind to be knowledgeable or the Iman or the priest…  Here’s one I love….  It’s when overweight people go to their doctor for advice on losing weight and the doctor is bigger than they are!

So how did our new resort manifest itself into our lives… ?

To be perfectly honest — I have no idea how it actually manifested, I just believed that somehow the universe would show me a way or introduce someone into my life that would help in some way.

We both desired it and started to talk about a pool with bungalows around it, I used to look at land and imagine building a small resort. I actually believed deep down in my heart that one day I would retire to a small income earning resort and it will all be paid for with no mortgages or debts to the bank. And it did not happen without some issues and grief as I will outline below but another fantastic way to look at life is

“Everything happens for a reason and leads to something better”

What does that mean…. ? Well here is how it happened for me.

I was in my late 40’s and married to a Filipino and had a similar plan but started to build a house with a pool on the hillside in Cebu, Philippines with a couple of self contained apartments under the house  to rent out when we eventually moved there to provide an income. The builder basically ripped us off and we ended up with an 70% completed house a lot of uncompleted building permits and much more expense if we wanted to finish it.

However living in the UK did not help and the housekeeper ran away after selling all our furniture, electrical items and the pool pump and filter! The pool then became a frog sanctuary and the house was becoming a real issue as my wife and I were not getting on… (various issues but not part of this story) a year later we separated and for the next 5 years could not sell the house. Everything and I mean everything went into building the house because it was going to be my / our retirement home and income. For those 5 years I thought life had given me a payback or something. (maybe I did something like this to someone in a previous life!… who knows) Anyway, we eventually got divorced, reluctantly as everything I had financially was tied up in that house.  I met someone new in Thailand (everything happens for a reason and leads to something better) and remarried about a year later and even though we had a lot of viewings on the Philippine house… we always lost the buyer because the building permit was not there or there was too much work involved to complete the house etc. Also as a foreigner in the far East basically we have zero rights and can own a house but not the land. So I was really trusting my ex wife to sell and give me at least half of the proceeds.

One day I had an email from our agent (highly recommended Raymond Ong in Cebu) who stuck with me… through the hard times…  taking clients up to see the house for 5 years when all other agents bombed out as they found we had paperwork issues as well. He has another client interested and told me the next day we had another offer…  It was much less than what we wanted and the house was worth if it was completed but it was exactly double what I had spent to date. To cut a long story short, we accepted the offer and the guy who purchased had connections in the government planning department so could get the paperwork sorted. I flew into Cebu as did my ex wife… We met at the bank where all the signing and money was being transferred and we ended up with a nice lump sum of cash in each of our bank accounts.

So that was the funding we needed to start building our dream pool resort in Thailand. You may be thinking that I had nearly lost everything and why would I be willing to risk it all again but this time in Thailand….  Well I truly believe that the universe did me a massive favor by getting me out of the last relationship and all the money I had invested was basically trapped in the “universe bank” until the time and circumstances were right for me to move onto my next project. In my own mind, all that money was gone and I was getting used to the idea that it was never coming back… so when it did, I though OK this is our chance to create something that we had been thinking about for a long time.

The next hurdle 

We cleared the bank loan on the house and land we already had, made our basic plan of the bungalows around a pool and found a builder. Then the Thai builder decides to walk away with our money and not even turn up on the day the project was supposed to start. We had paid him  £7500 (30%) deposit and he just kept the money and walked away!  It took another year and two legal court hearings for us to get half of the money back.

In the meantime we didn’t give up and the the design of the resort and pool changed or evolved would be a better word (everything happens for a reason and leads to something better).  The “Universe” somehow put me in touch with an Australian pool builder via a website I found on the internet and my wife and I were sitting at home one Sunday afternoon and I received a text from  Rob the Australian pool builder in Thailand…  he said is your wife’s name Joy? … I was surprised and texted back yes… how did you know that? It turned out that my wife’s friend who was on holiday in Thailand with her UK boyfriend Billy, who had spent many afternoons at our home having BBQ’s in the summer, was Rob’s “best friend” and they were sitting together in Thailand and my name had come up as his next client!

So we were basically given the best service possible and the pool was installed and everything went like clockwork…  Then we found another Thai builder, this time a family member and again everything went to plan ( a few issues but how can you possibly not have any issues in Thailand  LOL). Exactly 18 months after starting the project we came back two days ago and it is all finished and open for business. Even we cannot believe it as it happened so fast and we have only been out there 4 times during that time to supervise and move on the the next stage.

Enjoy the journey and have a plan…  There is nothing more frustrating that going to work everyday and having nothing to look forward to. I run business training seminars from the poolside in the cabana below when in Thailand and also from various locations in the UK at certain times of the year.

You become and get what you think about most of the time. Whatever you think about a lot, you attract into your life and experience. What you think about, you talk about, you give power to.

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Tomorrow never comes

I have never been able to understand the mentality of people that work at jobs or businesses for many years right up until retirement and even then, they still cannot seem to enjoy the lifestyle they could be living that they actually created years ago. Let me give you a couple of examples…


There is an Italian couple that have run the same corner shop with rooms to let above, a cafe to the side and the main shop is an Italian general store. Now, I have know this couple for the last 35 years and the shop has hardly changed in that entire time. You now they type of shop I mean… when you walk in there is hardly anywhere to walk because of all the stuff for sale in the walkways / isles. The shelves are full, the place is overflowing with items for sale. There is a tiny area behind the counter where the husband or the wife stands and while one is at the counter the other is serving in the cafe next door.

They are very rarely together and are probably in their late 50’s now. They work at the shop from about 6.30 am to about 10 pm every day 7 days a week. I also know for a fact that they have amassed quite a lot of money and have a really big house (probably all paid for in a nice part of town.) But… they spend their whole waking lives in the shop!

To me it is insane as there are so many better ways to live than standing in a small space serving customers all day long.. You may be thinking at this point that they may be happy doing that every day 7 days a week… well they don’t look happy to me, they look frustrated and pissed off most of the time whenever I see them.

I suppose people get sort of stuck in their ways and don’t really like change. Most people also will tell you they are doing whatever they do for the future… But again, tomorrow never comes. You must live your life doing things you enjoy and love everyday… Maybe you have young children and or do not have quite enough money to live the lifestyle you really want but as soon as you are in a position to make the changes, do it quickly and take small steps as sometimes the big change is too difficult to do all in one go.

Another typical example is the Indian shop keeper couple up the road from our house. They not only own the shop and run a Post office from within the shop and have accommodation above, they own several houses in the area which are all rented out. They also own many more properties in India of which we have heard makes them incredibly wealthy not only in the UK but in India too.

Now this is where I cannot for the life of me see why they live the lifestyle they do… Inside the shop is a reinforced Glass box about 6 feet x 6 feet and this is the secure post office part of the shop. Either the man or his wife is sitting inside this glass box “prison” every single day for hours and hours on end. WHY ? Why don’t they just enjoy a simpler or more productive life.

There are so many things that most people would love to do if they had the time and the money. There are so many things to learn, so many places to see, so many things that you could do with your life.

Freedom is very rare for most people, they have jobs or commitments and a whole host of reasons why they cannot be totally free. Many are self imposed and some are not. So one of the most important things to be thinking about on a daily basis is HOW you can be more free in your life or what would you do if you had the money, the time and the freedom to do whatever it is in life you really want to do.

Think about your passion… What is it I really want or love to do? What would I do if I did not have to work and had plenty of money and investments? If you don’t know or have difficulty answering those questions.. please understand that you are not alone and many of us have struggled with answering those deep questions. We are all so very different in mind and desires so it really is a very personal thing that you need to reflect on and try to figure out in your own life.

“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice”

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You are not at this post by accident

This is one of the first postings on my original website and blog and if you find yourself here reading this then make no mistake it was not by chance. All my life I have been looking for my destiny or life direction and up until very recently was still searching… until i came across a you tube video that made me realize that I have been doing what I am supposed to be doing with my life all along.

You see, I believe our lives are all about having experiences. Some people live a very boring and mundane existence, they stay in the same town or village all their life. Work in the same job or industry all their life, and maybe that’s what they are supposed to be doing. A teacher is happy and successful if he or she loves teaching. A mother may only be interested in bringing up children.

However, some people, me included cannot wait to jump out of bed each morning and see what new experiences are going to come my way today. I believe we have to let the Universe or whatever it is that can guide us throughout our lives do so. What I mean is… almost everything you have read about becoming successful involves goal setting or having a set plan of action to achieve success.

I love this simple message from Richard Branson as it really does mean a lot to me. Over the years I have recruited over 500 people into various programs that have amazing marketing  plans that allow the average person to make more in a month than anyone else they know do in a year… but what do most of them do? They make excuses, they don’t attend any training’s, they are basically un teachable and really need a simple JOB.

Richard Branson amazing

There are only a few people who teach the opposite of all the other gurus out there and once I tried the concept and STOPPED setting goals and let the Universe guide me… things started happening and my frustration at not having my goals work out as quickly as I wanted went away. The people I personally love to listen to are Ken Roberts, Wayne Dyer, Jim Rohn, Larry Thompson and even Kevin Trudeau…. (Kevin has some negative reviews but he talks a lot of good sense with a mega memory CD course and “The cures they don’t want you to know about” and Your wish is your command CD set amongst the few I have listened to and read.

Think about this for a moment, if you have a goal to start a specific business… you are actually limiting yourself to that business and whatever money or success it can give you. What if your destiny was to do something totally different ! The reason most people don’t get what they desire is because their life purpose is not being allowed to materialize . You have to get your ego out of the way and start to listen to your inner voice which connects you to your higher self. Most people never get to hear their higher self because they are so pre-occupied with working and home life, commuting and trying to survive. Television “programming” and advertising coming at us from every direction everyday.


The first thing you need to do is take some time out everyday and do nothing. It could be 15 mins or 30 mins or even an hour if you can. If you’re into meditation, that is the best thing to do in the mornings before your day gets going. If your not into meditation, yoga or Tai chi.. then try to have a walk in nature or your garden or sit quietly with some soothing music for at least 15 mins. What this does is give your higher self a chance to connect to your conscious mind (the ego part of your mind that is always telling you to do this or that and will never let your mind rest)

Trying to quiet the mind is the hardest challenge of all but once you do take control of it instead of letting your mind control you and all your actions everyday, you will never have the connection. Some people call it a gut feeling, other people can go into a daydream and get the connection, some people like the famous writer Earnest Hemingway used to drink alcohol to tap into his creative mind.

As this is the 1st blog posting I will stop writing now as I have so much to share and it cannot all be said today but I will leave you with a great quote from another freedom business advocate

“Life becomes effortless and amazing things happen when you are on your True path”


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Portable businesses you can do from anywhere

Have you ever wanted to have the freedom in your life to live and work from anywhere with your laptop? This is something a lot of people are now doing under the name of “Freedom Businesses“.

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So what is a freedom business? In a nutshell it can be anything you can do on your laptop or phone without having to be in a specific location, office, warehouse or whatever. The most obvious freedom business is any form of consulting that you are experienced in. This could be business consulting, relationship consulting, computer tech consulting, the list is endless..

Another freedom business is Affiliate marketing where all you need to do is join a company like Clickbank and choose one or more of the 1000’s of products and earn commission marketing someone else’s ebook or online course…

Another great business is building websites for small companies – Did you know that there are still 1000’s of small businesses (plumbers, electricians, painters etc. that still in this day and age, Do not have a website! While I was in Thailand last month, we were approached by a swimming pool sales person who we started to use for some maintenance issue we had with our resort swimming pool filter and pump. While this was being looked at my wife told the woman who had approached us that I build websites and she immediately started going on about her website that she needed changing… Well it turned out that some student had built her a really basic website and the domain name was not linking to the website properly and it was just a terrible website.

I showed her a few examples, like one of my own swimming pool sales websites see mine here, and she asked me how much to build her a new website. I quoted her £200 to include 1 year of hosting (in my own account of which I have all my own websites hosted and can build many more) It took me about 4 -5 hours to build and then she just emailed me all the various products she wanted to sell and I uploaded them into various galleries for her. The websites also have a shop page with built in paypal payment system but I would charge more to set up a shop. This is the actual site –

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Another thing I do wherever I am if I get bored is to knock up another website for a specific trade or industry like Ironing and Cleaning or Painting and Decorating, choose a really good catchy domain name and then list the website for sale on ebay for £250 – 500 for a basic 2-3 page site. I have sold many websites on ebay and the most expensive one was £5000 for a car parking website. I currently have a couple of interesting websites for sale, see the contact page of this website/blog.

One of them is – this is one of my unused websites ( I have another 5 car eyelashes websites, my main car-eyelashes site is (I still get a few orders most days, but it’s not a huge market as not everyone wants eyelashes around their car headlights! The site for sale needs some SEO work to get it back onto the 1st page of Google. Currently it is not making any money as I have not done any promotion on it for a couple of years now.

My other sites still generate me an income from the Car eyelashes.
Where do you get the car eyelashes from….? Me of course as I am the owner of the special mould that makes them… I set this up about 4 years ago and since the beginning we have some many 1000’s of car eyelashes at retail from the UK and Thailand (as this again is a very portable business, you just need to carry some stock with you in your luggage and be at location for a few months at a time). I also have independent distributors in Germany, USA, Holland, Croatia, S. Africa and a few other countries who buy them at wholesale and retail them from their own websites in their own countries.

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The other website I am considering selling is The Yacht Harbour a yacht and boat sales website. This is a lot more money because I have done so much work on it over the years and paid £1000’s to SEO companies for ongoing promotion. It has over 450 of yachts and boats for sale and also offers custom built model yachts to clients ( I am an agent for a model yacht builder in the UK) This site I would sell for £12,500 a lot of money I know…  but when you see how big the site is and what has gone into it over the years you would understand. I may just keep it and develop it more when I eventually retire to our resort in Thailand in a few years time. Then I would have the time to do the promotion again myself. To be honest the whole site needs some serious ongoing SEO work as the Yacht sales industry is massive and the competition of Yacht brokers around the world is also daunting so needs someone dedicated enough to work this website full time.

Back to building websites for small businesses
This has to be one of the easiest ways to make money as all you need to do is get some flyers made up and go give them out to small businesses wherever you are. Many small businesses do have a website but you will also find that they DO NOT HAVE THE TIME to keep it updated or it is totally out of date or not mobile friendly which is very important these days as more people access the internet via a smartphone or tablet now that people using a desktop.

They also DO NOT KNOW HOW TO CHANGE anything on their websites because they did not build it. The problem for all these small business owners is that they have to wait days or weeks for any changes their webmaster makes and also it costs them a lot of money to do it.

So the answer is YOU offering them a nice new website and a simple service of free (or very low cost) updates whenever they need it. All you need to do to run this kind of service business is an account with the website hosting company like I use. (I can build up to 20 websites and host them all for only £190 (US$260 approx) per year (for a bit more I can upgrade to 30 or even 50 websites) By you hosting their website, you get to charge them a yearly fee (say £50 – US$75) and for any kind of simple updates they want to make that may take you longer than a say 15 minutes to do.

But I don’t know how to build websites I hear you thinking…

The online web builders these days are so easy to use…if fact I used to offer to show the client how to login and make the changes, add text, pictures, move stuff around, add pages, insert key words to SEO etc. But now I don’t do that, I just keep the sites in my own account and do the updates myself so I can charge them a yearly fee to look after it for them.

I can teach you over the phone (no matter where you are in the world by using SKYPE) how to build websites from using the many pre built templates available. Yes you can probably start building sites without my help but I have had so many years experience using this specific web builder … I can if you choose, save you hours and hours of time when you are trying to find out how to do a multitude of tasks like adding a slideshow or you tube videos or special effects to pages etc. etc.

A couple of hours of website building training could give you a whole new Freedom business.

See my training rates on the contact page.

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Investing in Thailand – How not to lose everything

Here is an article on a subject that could save you everything you have and I have met many many foreigners who wish they had heard this information or taken a bit of advice from a friend before selling everything up and buying a house or business in Thailand.


Firstly, you have to understand that ONLY a Thai National can own land in Thailand.

So all businesses and houses can only be purchased in a Thai persons name or a Thai company with a certain amount of Thai directors.  The main reason for this article is not so much the business purchases but is really aimed at saving  the 10,000’s of guys that get married to a beautiful (and sometimes very ugly… only they know why… but then we are all different) girl and then buy or build her a house in Thailand.

So let’s get the Farang and the business investments out of the way first.

Unless you are prepared to have Thai partners (OMG please NO) and can trust them … !!! with you, in running the business you will lose everything. The next stupid thing is the amount of guys that have a dream of owning a “bar” in Pattaya or a parascending boat or water sports business!

As for the bars….  there are 1000’s of them and mostly empty and struggling to survive so why anyone would want to do that is beyond belief. Then there is the Protection money / Thai Mafia / Thai Police that has to be paid every week or month… Don’t pay and they simply shut you down. Try to sell your boat or bar and you will be in a very dark place…

Let’s now take a look at the trap that most guys fall into.

They have married a young girl (a word of advice, go for an older girl, 35 + and they will more than likely stay with you forever. They know they are well past their shelf life and have virtually no chance of a Thai man marrying them so try much harder to make the relationship work)  After all the gold you have bought her and giving money to the family every month, the next big sting is the house. Many guys who have managed to meet and marry a Thai are older and are probably divorced and have a house and or money back home in their own country. This makes them feel very rich in Thailand because you can buy a nice new big house for a few million Baht to unlimited…  1 million Baht is about £20,000 UK pounds or $30,000 US$  Now in the UK you cannot buy a 1 bed flat for less that £100K (5 million baht)

So the guy is now thinking…  If I sell my house, I can buy a bigger house or apartment in Thailand and still have loads of money left in the bank…  (that may be true but your new Thai wife will be planning and scheming with her family to get that all away from you to be sure)

Do you have any idea how many divorces there are between Thai girls and Foreign men in just the Khon Kaen area alone?
The answer is between 50 – 100 pm. Just google it and see for yourself.

Now multiply that for all the major cities in Thailand and you will understand that 1000’s of Thai / Farang divorces are happening every month in Thailand. We are not talking about how many are getting divorced in the UK, Germany or Italy etc. This is just in Thailand, so why is that….?  Could it be that the guy eventually sussed out that his lovely little Thai wife, never ever loved him, that it was all about making money, getting out of Thailand, and even if you were 85 with one leg and two heads she still would have married you to get to the money pot.

Most of these guys, have also sold up at home and “invested” their money in a house in Thailand……  Let’s change the word “invested” to “All will be totally lost” as it is more appropriate. In Thailand a Farang cannot own the land and I have never heard of any Thai court case yet of the Farang getting his money back after a divorce.

I have however seen personally and heard 100’s  stories of Farangs losing EVERYTHING and go home with nothing. I have even seen Foreigners sitting on the pavement in Bangkok on the good old Sukhumvit road outside Robinsons with a board saying something like.

My wife has thrown me out, I have no money for food and
cannot even fly home – Please help me.

I can tell you this… it brought tears to my eyes when I first saw this and especially when I saw some Thai girls giving him small change so he could get some food.  Thailand can be the most incredible place on the planet but not if you have lost everything to a business minded Thai girl and her family.


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Everything gone

Here is another real event shortened personal story of a German guy I met while living in Phuket. I had met him as I was running ads in the Phuket Gazette for independent distributors as I was recruiting people for a networking company. Anyway, I met him at the Tropicana Hotel just off the beach road in Phuket and during the presentation I was giving him via my laptop he seemed very distant and un interested. After we finished the presentation, I asked him why he was looking to earn money and why he was in Phuket… He just answered that he had recently split up with his wife and had bought her a house and restaurant business and when it all failed…  (Like most Thai run businesses set up with a Farangs money) Her family had told her to dump him and find a new boyfriend (ATM machine). He said he was so in love with her and had lost over 200,000 Euros over the last few years. 

I listened to his story and then as he seemed a decent guy invited him for a drink that evening so we could chat some more. That evening we met outside the Banana Disco on the beach road again and were sitting there having a few beers when all of a sudden a Taxi pulled up and this German guy jumped up and ran towards the taxi. There was a girl inside and the taxi very quickly sped away while the German guy was shouting and chasing it down the road…  On his return to our table he was going crazy saying that was his ex wife in the Taxi and he wanted to talk to her but she had told him she was going out with a rich American guy working as a trader in Singapore and she was supposed to be in Bangkok.. 

The next day I had a call from the German and he said he had managed to contact her and was going to have a meeting with her. Never saw him again until I read the Bangkok Post newspaper the following week that had his picture on the front page!  the main headline read “German man murders his wife in Phuket” and the Police were searching for him. I was stunned and could not believe he would do something like that but then there are many crimes of passion that we will never understand. He must have been out of his mind with what his ex wife had done to him…  A few months later I read that they had found him, he had managed to get out of Thailand and was caught in Germany, extradited and is probably now still in some terrible Thai jail…


So back to our article….  How to Keep your wealth and money and not lose it all in Thailand.

The best thing to do – If you want to go live in Thailand with your new wife and protect your money is to NEVER sell your home in your home country and NOT to buy a house in the land of smiles.

All you need to do to protect your wealth and sanity is RENT your house out via an agency or someone you can trust and live on the rental income in Thailand. In Thailand you can rent a really nice house or apartment for much less than you are receiving in rent from you home in the UK.

There is usually more than enough coming in to live on and your “Thai wife and her family” cannot ever take control of your life. Live within your means on the monthly rent from your house and you will be well protected.. 

Of course you can always reassure your new Thai wife that if anything happens to you she will get the house in your “will” but while you are still alive….  you need to protect yourself just in case something happens 5 or 10 years down the road…  Remember, very few marriages to the young Thai girls last more than a few years and the divorce statistics prove it so be smart and RENT not SELL your home in your home country.

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Losing your shirt with the online Thai dating sites

After living in Bangkok and Phuket for just over 10 years, I have seen all the internet dating scams and cons used by the girls and you can believe it or not “British, European, Australian and even American guys” pretending to be attractive girls or homely girls.They actually admit “they have to make money somehow”! and some of them find no problem with pretending to be a stunning young Thai girl and getting some unsuspecting guy in the USA or Europe to “fall in love” with “them” and start to part them from their cash!!!

Read on for more of the dirty tricks used by the girls, the guys and ladyboys…

Would you email this beautiful girl?


Well, it’s a Katoey (ladyboy) and even in real life, would not be able to tell the difference until it’s too late!

Online dating is so acceptable now that it is now reported that one out of 8 marriages originate online. Yet there are risks. Because of the easy online anonymity, well over 50% of dating profiles are false and used for cons and scams and rip off crimes done in the name of love!

So you’ve created your profile and then joined a couple of dating sites and the girls are sending you messages of interest and you are scanning the 1000’s of profiles and emailing them back……. With the Asian websites, guys can easily get over 10 girls per day sending you their interest yet in the UK an guy over 40 is lucky to get a few emails a week!

So what is the down side of joining an online dating website?

1. Firstly, Lots of profiles are fake and have either guys or the Nigerian type scammers behind them.

2. You will be spoilt for choice and the girls will be from all over Thailand. I had over 100 replies within a week when I went on one Thai dating website alone. You may think that going out there and visiting them all is an option but to be honest, it’s totally impractical to try to visit several places and see all you’re the potential girls within a few weeks and you would not have the time to see or spend any quality time with all the girls on your short list.

3. People are never the same in the flesh as they look in their photos and their personalities can also be totally different from the emails they have been sending you. Many girls (and guys) use their best photos, usually several years old and they do not look anything like they did when the photos were taken.

4. Virtually all the girls are emailing loads guys at the same time….
They are all looking for the serious guy(s) who will go out and meet them. And unfortunately many of them will marry virtually anyone to escape their present situation.

5. Some of the smarter girls use the internet café as their office and their business is SCAMMING guys into sending them money.

6. Many girls are looking for a cash cow to send them money every month.

7. Virtually ALL Thai people think ALL Foreigners are rich !
and no matter how hard you try, you will not convince them.

8. If you get to the marrying stage, expect to build a new house and get a car for your new Thai spouse and don’t forget you are now the new provider for her family. Failure to do those few things will cause her to “lose face” and that’s worse than anything for a Thai…..


Sorry guys but these two would be wanting to borrow your razor in the morning!


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How to find your dream girl

The best way is to be introduced by someone already married to a nice Thai girl (like myself) and has the contacts and network of the very rare nice single (and some divorced) girls who are serious about marriage and seriously DO NOT WANT to marry a THAI MAN.

You may contact me if you are serious and can afford my services...
(2 weeks of my time – £1500 + hotel and flights) I can help you avoid all the
scams and cons and offer personal advice and access to my wife’s real Thai
friends and connections.

Please note: Most of these girls do not speak English and are very scared of foreigners … So If you really want to meet a True Thai wife to spend the rest of your life with and are not interested in the stupid “sexy young gold digger hookers” … Message me

However, for the brave guys who want to go out and do it alone….
Read on…. The first thing to do it is pick a big city (like Cebu, Philippines or Khon Kaen, Thailand) and go there for a few weeks. This is how I found my Filipino wife… and the method is fast and works very well.

Read this FREE ebook –  private-dancer if you have never been to Thailand before.


Sexy  thai girl

A few weeks before you travel and then, once there, you log into one of the websites like  or and contact all the girls you are interested in, stick to just that city (ie. Cebu, Chiang Mai or wherever) and inform them you are there in person. Avoid Bangkok, Pattaya or Phuket because those are the cities the girls go to work at as bar girls. You need to find a nice girl in her “home town” or village that has never been exposed to all the sex bars and crap in those areas.

You tell them you are very serious and that you have come to look for a serious relationship and would like to meet them for a coffee. Ask for their phone number and get a cheap SIM card while out there, so they can call you, and set up meetings with them. In my experience, you have to physically meet at least 10 girls to find one that you really click with

I set up meetings at a coffee shop in a big plaza and arranged about 6 appointments per day (one every hour) They come meet you and you have a coffee and a chat. (limit each meeting to a max of 30 mins) After a few days or about a week of doing this you will have a short list of girls you really like and then you can arrange to see them again but this time for a longer time, ie. go to the movies or sightseeing. The way to know if the girl is good (ie. not a bar girl) is that she will have friends or a family member with her when she meets you, they are still into the old ways out there. (If they speak fairly good English or you see any tattoo’s it will be a 99% chance or indication that you are dealing with a bar girl)

When you think you have found the one ! and I assure you….. you will know…. you will want to spend as much time as possible with her.

However, remember there are still a lot of cons and you should never start sending money over when you return home. Also there are some dangerous games some girls play, and it is quite common to hear of a foreigner getting mugged in a taxi (cos the girl set you up etc.)

Obviously, if you can afford to take me with you, (£1500 + flights and hotel expenses for 2 weeks as your personal guide), I can help you a lot more with places to go and places to avoid.

Avoid or Don’t go to Manila it’s a horrible place and very dangerous.

When I found my last wife (back in 2002) , I had interviewed about 12 girls and I had a really good connection with her… she was texting me everyday and we got on really well. I took her to Boracay (Best holiday Island in the Philippines) for a few weeks and we then stayed together in a villa that I rented for another 2 months, to see how we got on etc. Then while I was there we booked her appointment at the British Embassy for her fiancee visa and she flew home with me. (I was there for 3 months in total).


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Thailand vs Philippines

I often get asked; Which country is best for fun or finding a serious marriage partner ?

Well, because I was married to a Thai for 7 years and lived in Thailand for over 10 years and have also been married to a Filipino for 5 years, I would definitely say ….. forget the Philippines if you want the exciting and erotic nightlife and bars.

For the fun and nightlife it has to be Thailand.

young thai girls

However, if your looking for a loving and faithful wife… then the Philippines would be the best choice. Philippine women are much easier to live with, understand and usually marry for the long term.
Thai women can also be very good wives but there are many more Thai divorce cases than Filipino…….
In my own experience, virtually all the Thai girls I have known are on their 2nd or even 3rd husband and virtually all the Filipino’s that I got to know through my ex wife are still married to the same guy.  

Make your own mind up…  To me it is fairly obvious that the Thai’s are more “business minded” when looking to capture a new ATM machine to support them and also their families. I was basically very unlucky in my own case as it is very rare for Filipinos to divorce and I also admit I was on the rebound and a bit naive as my Filipino wife was only 25 and I was in my 40’s when we married. (Long story short, I found out she was having an affair with the driving instructor!!! So out she went.) 


My latest wife of 6 years now has been the easiest and most incredible experience of my life…
Can you imagine having a wife that basically want’s to be with you and around you 99% of the time…?
No going off with her mates every weekend and eating or playing cards with them every other day or more…
No stupid trips to the Casino every weekend. In actual fact I sometimes cannot believe she is actually Thai !

However, my new wife is very well educated and finished university… she worked in a Bank and then the local government.. in fact all the other Thai’s we meet here in the UK are an embarrassment as 95% are from the bars. She has a few Thai friends but the culture shock for her when she arrived was incredible… She had never even been in a Thai bar let alone know any bar girls back home in Thailand…

Imagine her horror when they all start talking about their “boring” husbands and the latest Gik they had found to have wild sex with!!! A Gik is the Thai girls word for a boyfriend on the side.  

So how did I meet such a genuine and honest Thai girl that was not a gold digger. Not sure really…
I think “The UNIVERSE or GOD” had realized how much shit and suffering I had been through over the years and decided it was time for me to have a nice one… Or maybe I just got lucky… One thing is for sure, I and my wife are very happy, contented and want to be together all the time. She earns her own money and has never ever asked me to send money home to support the family…

WHY ? You may ask, as virtually every guy married to a Thai knows that “they are expected to supply money on a monthly basis” to support the family (and the lazy brothers and sisters back home in Thailand who think their sister has won the lottery and stop all previous work to sponge off the new ATM machine Farang)
Well, it is only the uneducated girls that end up working the bars and they have never ever earned any serious money or even had a well paid or respected job. What you have to understand is that in Thailand there are millions and millions of well off and rich Thai’s. They have big houses and more money than what we would call middle class over here in the UK.  In Thailand there is a massive divide between rich and the poor. The poor are totally exploited and the rich are ruthless and pay peanuts to their workers. 


Here is the problem for western guys trying to meet a nice / well educated Thai girl from a rich family (By the way, they are not all “nice”, in fact many of the rich Thai girls are so spoilt, they would be a living nightmare for a westerner to try to support) Thai’s love to shop and even the Thai men are scared of how they spend money…

The problem is this….

If a Thai girl is seen (by family, friends or co workers) with a Farang

It is automatically assumed … that the girl is a BAR GIRL, Hooker or Prostitute, so they literally run away from any foreigners that try to talk to them or date them. They do not want to “Lose their face”.  

However, some relationships are formed if the guy is working for a big company in Thailand or is a teacher or has some obvious good standing in the Thai community. I met mine via the internet, but let me explain… we spoke every single day (via translation websites and dictionaries) I also knew from past experience of living in Thailand how all the internet cafes were full of girls writing to several guys at the same time… To them it is a business and they are simply telling each guy the same old shit and getting them to send money every week or month or whatever.

I knew, I had to go and meet(my new girlfriend) ASAP…  Within a month I was on a plane to meet her…  It should also be noted that I also had several other girls that were writing to me (via the Thai lovelinks website). On my arrival I had planned to see all of them over the next 3 weeks by travelling to about 4 different areas in Thailand. However, I was incredibly lucky to meet my new wife first……  She was as nervous as hell and could not speak much English and this was a huge chance she was taking (meeting a foreigner from the internet) She was 37 yrs of age, divorced and had one son. Well, this post is getting too long already so I will finish up by saying, I was so impressed with this girl that I never even went to see any of the others, I stayed the whole 3 weeks in a hotel in Maha Sarakham… one of the most un interesting cities in Thailand with hardly any bars and virtually no foreigners walking around..  

She lived at home and worked in her government office during the daytime. At 5 pm after her office work, she would drive home, see her son and parents for a short time then back in the car to spend a few hours with me. This was how it went for the 3 weeks…  On my return to the UK, I knew I had found the most incredible person and we made plans for her to come to the UK on a holiday…  Next step was the fiancee visa, then we brought her 14 yr old son over a year later. We have now been married for 6 really happy years and I sincerely believe will be together for the rest of our lives.


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